In the Dark

One of the most annoying things and possibly my biggest pet peeve is not knowing where I stand in a situation. It's the worst when you are told by someone that they will get back to you, call you or let you know, but they never do or they just keep stringing you along like a dumb fool who doesn't know what's really coming to them. I feel like I'm stumbling around in the dark when all I really need to do is just flip the switch and turn the light on. But the pressures and intimidation of the situation keeps me from asking the questions I need to be asking. Instead I give them the benefit of the doubt and trust their word that they will get back to me. I am left forever waiting in the dark until finally I realize that they will never get back to me and the whole situation is just hopeless. I realize that all that time I've been sitting in the dark, waiting, hoping for them to come and back and turn the light on was a joke on my part; I need to stop waiting and turn the light on myself.

Each time something like this happens I am reminded that sitting and waiting is not an option. I have to pick myself up and either confront the situation or drop it altogether. I can't rely on someone else to come through on their word, therefore I can only rely on myself. It's quite sad to think that someone's word no longer means anything to me anymore. I trust people more with their actions than I do with their words. If you give me your word, I'll take it, but I'll remain skeptical till you follow through.

Is Love Blind?

-moments before they saw each for the first time-

Just recently The Mix FM 101.9 here in Chicago decided to find out if Love is Blind. To test this out they performed a social experiment with a woman (Laura) and a man (Ted). The woman was chosen from 4 other women, each were questioned and listeners texted in their votes with who they liked the best. After the woman was chosen it was then time to find the man of her dreams. Men who were looking for true love called in, 5 were chosen. From the 5 men she questioned each about their morals, lifestyles, etc. Then she chose one man, Ted. They then had scheduled phone calls through the radio station to talk to each other on air, this went on for 2 weeks, they talked only 10 times over the phone to be exact. What happens after 2 weeks you ask? Well, they're supposed to get married of course! Well, it didn't really happen like it was hyped up to be. Like me you're probably thinking how could two people fall in love and get married by just talking to each other for 2 weeks? Remember neither of them have actually met each other face to face. The first day that they do see each other is on their wedding day! yikes! Well as that day came, dressed up in their tuxedos and wedding gear, Ted and Laura finally see each other face to face at the alter. They reveal to everyone that they are not yet "in love" but "in like" and would like to keep dating and know each other more before they get married. This comes to no surprise to me, and I'm sure to a lot of the other listeners. 2 weeks is just too little time to get to know someone.

The radio station claimed that they could have stayed with the couple and let them continue conversing for longer but at some point it needed to have a conclusion. So two weeks was their end point. They provided the means for a wedding to take place only if the couple wanted to get married. In other words, it was there for them if they were ready. But nothing was forced upon them and they were free to make their decision on that day.

But if you ask me,I'm just glad they didn't get married. Call me a pessimist or whatever, but I believe love is something that takes time. Blind love...it's a nice thought but I think physical attractiveness to the other sex is necessary. Yes, you can find someone more attractive through their personality. But if you're not physically attracted to someone and but they have a great personality...come on, let's be real, they're never gonna be more than just a friend. Call me shallow if you wish, but it's true. Being in love is the whole package, you gotta love the person inside and out, completely and totally, with everything you have.